🌵 From Failure to Success 💪

To put it simply, I have been a premature ejaculator since I was 18. At 27, I no longer am... Here is my journey summarized in a few lines.

At the beginning, I was mostly in denial (it was probably too hard to accept), and my chances of success were slim. Let me remind you that back then (the 90s), the subject was even more taboo than today, and YouTube, or even the Internet, didn’t exist...
So, I was pretty much on my own. I could have, perhaps, consulted a sexologist, but I was suspicious and not very inclined to talk about it. Moreover, the only sexologist around, within a 50 km radius, was a woman (and I could even less imagine talking about it to a woman)...

So, I let the problem drag on, hoping it would resolve itself (maybe 🧘🕊️). But despite everything, I continued living my life, turning to spirituality, traveling, searching for answers to legitimate existential questions... without really addressing my real problem (my one and only real big issue at the time).

Years passed: one, then two, then five… until the day when, on a working visa in Japan, a Japanese friend (who was very beautiful) made me understand that she was interested in me. And instead of embracing this blessing, I started telling myself that, anyway, I probably wouldn’t be good enough, that she might be disappointed... and I politely declined her invitation.

But in hindsight, it was actually a blessing in disguise: it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I couldn’t stand living another moment under this heavy burden. I was starting to become aware of all the harmful consequences and the vicious cycle that was holding me back despite myself. Not only did I think I was incapable of giving a woman pleasure properly, but on top of that, I was starting to avoid them. My self-confidence was declining.

It was at that moment, in that calm and clean alley, well-lit like the thousands you find in Japan, watching the silhouette of this dear person fade away, that I understood my life had to change by 200%.

But between my newfound determination and all the obstacles I had yet to overcome, I was only at the beginning of the road.
Yet, as a wise Chinese sage once said:
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

It was perfect timing: I decided to leave Japan and its many stunning women for China. First by boat, from Osaka to Shanghai, then I crossed China from east to west in a flash, all the way to the magnificent Tibetan plateau, which helped me forget my pain… or rather, my suffering.
And still, there was the pain I was aware of, and the other one, deeper, unconscious, that was also eating me up inside…

But once I reached Nepal, a happy event would temporarily bend the course of my destiny. This event had a name: Stephanie.
She was a sweet American, a bit of a hippie, but whose father had gone to Harvard, if I remember correctly. We met magically and gently on the steps of the great stupas of Durbar Square, in Kathmandu...

And no, that didn’t change anything. Despite Stephanie’s kindness and tenderness, I was still struggling with the same issue.
But she didn’t hold it against me, she even encouraged me to improve and gave me advice. In short, an angel who changed my life.

This probably helped me believe that I could make it, that I could meet women, and that some of them actually understood my problem and wouldn’t judge me. A true game-changer that opened up new horizons for me.

Then, during another trip to India, another decisive woman entered my life: Nora, an Irish woman 12 years older than me. She was gorgeous and, without a doubt, much more experienced than I was.
She too knew how to reassure me, calm me down, talk to me… and that helped me tremendously.
Plus, she had an amazing ability to orgasm, I just had to penetrate her for less than two minutes for her to get there (after foreplay, of course). It was great for my ego and self-confidence...

I felt I was on the right path, but I was still at the very beginning...

Despite everything, my progress wasn’t enough for me. However, I knew that being around these two extraordinary women, full of kindness and patience, had helped me regain some confidence.
Something had changed, but I didn’t quite know what… but in the distance, a star shone at the dawn of a new day.

It took me a few more years, during which I didn’t hesitate to visit certain brothels in Bangkok (yes, indeed) in Thailand.
Again, it helped me progress… (watch my video on the topic).

Finally, while traveling in South America, visiting a few strip clubs here and there, and with the help of more or less legal substances, I finally reached the Holy Grail.

One night, with a young Brazilian woman my age – cool, fun, and sexy – in the small village of Trancoso, I felt, for the first time, that I was truly in control...

I had just crossed the Rubicon.

I was no longer a premature ejaculator. The next day, the white walls of the small church in the village center, shining under the February sun, reminded me of the miracle that had taken place before my eyes, during the night.
A resurrection, a miracle, a mirage… Was it temporary? Real? Was it truly over?

It took me another six months to confirm it and be sure that it was definitely over.
That six-month period is fascinating to analyze: despite real and undeniable successes, I only started believing it six months later… a timeline that speaks volumes about this condition.

One last thing...

My journey was a bit chaotic, and most importantly, it took me time.
And yet, I put an enormous amount of energy into it and sometimes took reckless risks (I’m not telling you everything, this is just a summary 😉).

I don’t regret it, of course.
But honestly (watch my video on this topic), this isn’t the easiest path, and I advise you to seek help.
You don’t have to, but if you don’t make progress alone, then be reasonable and realistic.

👉 Can you overcome it alone?
✅ Yes, of course! (Proof right here.)

But… it took me years (and I was fully committed). I faced dangers, knives, took unbelievable risks.

If you’re stagnating after 6 months to a year, it’s strongly advised to get help.
It’s not about selling myself, it’s because I genuinely believe it.

And that’s why I decided to share everything with you:

👉 My discoveries,
👉 My doubts,
👉 My failures,
👉 My successes,
👉 My vision after 20 years of studying and understanding premature ejaculation.

There are a thousand ways to overcome premature ejaculation. Some work better than others, some work better for certain people. Stay open-minded, keep the adventurous spirit, try things, take risks… We have never been closer to unlocking all the secrets of ejaculation. 🤫